Caregivers

Why would I want to go to a Support Group?

Posted by Debbie Pilson in category on January 09, 2012

Many people caring for a loved one feel satisfaction knowing they are returning the support their loved one once provided them.  They are doing what they committed to do when they got married.  Or mom and dad has been so good to us, I have to do this for them.  

But caregiving, regardless of the amount of satisfaction, often causes feelings of isolation, guilt that you are not doing enough, grief and a sense of loss that the person they love is no longer the same person, confusion about where to turn for help, frustration that this is not what they had planned to be doing at this point in their lives, anger at the lack of time they have for themselves and their families, or worry about the qualify of care they are providing.   These feelings and emotions are NORMAL.   However, these emotions along with being exhausted much of the time and not getting enough sleep can lead to "burnout."  At this point, the caregiver feels trapped, completely drained of time and energy all of the time,  stressed to the max, and totally focused on providing care and does not have any outlets.   This can lead to depression, heart disease and other health issues. 

Many people caring for a loved one feel they have to do it all alone, or that's the way it appears.  They don't ask help from their family.  They don't accept offers of help from friends.  But taking care of yourself and allowing yourself some breaks is an important part of providing care for the person who depends on you.

In an earlier article (Jan. 3) I wrote about utilizing Adult Day Programs in your area, even if for 1 or 2 days a week.  Now I'm going to suggest attending a Caregiver Support Group in your area.  These meet on a regular basis and are on e of the best places for caregivers to meet others going through the same challenges you are.  Support groups provides "safe" environment to vent frustrations, anger and disappointments, as well as share success stores.  Support groups also allow people to share valuable information and insights about community resources and medical information.  Often guest speakers come in and share their expertise and experiences.  

A support group makes you realize you are not alone.  Often a support group may be held at an Adult Day Center or Program, and your loved one can be a participant in the program while you attend the support group meeting.  This is also a good way to introduce your loved one to an Adult Day Program.  

To find a support group in your area call the NCBAM call center at 1-877-506-2226 or your local Senior Center or Senior Services Organization.  The Alzheimer's Association may also be able to inform you of Caregiver Support Groups in your area   1-800-272-3900    www.alz.org